Afraid to Love

Many people these days are afraid to love. They avoid relationships with others because they've been hurt badly, often over and over. If this is you, and you want to return to love, then there's work to be done. It's important to understand that our experiences in life are based on the mental/emotional/energetic framework within which we function. This framework provides the 'shape' of the vibrations we send out and we know that according to the Law of Attraction, what we send out, defines what we attract. To change those resonances often takes more than affirmations. It's time to explore your psyche in order to heal and restore to your true power.

Go gently and quietly, get a notebook or journal and begin to excavate your life. Look at your childhood relationships, especially with your parents. Consider not just whether they were bad or good but what kind of bad or good they were. Were your parents controlling, dismissive, demanding, absent? Take your time to excavate the major relationships in your life, and at the same time, open your mind to the decisions you made based on those experiences. Quite often these decisions are made in your teen years, not the best time of many people's lives. The more you understand about how your system was formed, the easier it is to break it down and rebuild it in the shape you choose. Often, just by seeing and understanding what the pattern is and how it got there, it instantly collapses without you having to do anything more.

Also consider past life influences, passionate vows, curses, dark or tormented lives, will often contribute to the struggle with love (and money and other expressions of divinity). If you are able, explore these lives, learn more about them, the more you remember, the easier it is to heal and collapse the structure developed around it.

You may find that you really need help doing this work, if that's the case, be prepared to commit to the work, working deeply and possibly over many sessions to truly shift the blocks involved and rebuild the system towards that which you choose for yourself. There is a way out and you can have it. You can truly have the life and love that you choose for yourself.

There are many healers out there who work with the breaking down of complex issues. Shaman Goddess, Daniella Breen from Soul Path Coaching is one of them. Knowing when to ask for help is an incredibly empowering choice.

Empowerment Series: The New Age Junkie

There is masses of information swirling around our world about our power and ability as Divine Beings. Lots of great stuff telling us that we can manifest the life we want and introducing us to angels and other Divine Helpers and so on. All of this is wonderful of course and I am one of those people who teach this really great information. However there is a real problem that needs to be addressed. New Age Junkies (NAJs). People who get high on the ideas presented but don't know how to bring it into their life in a real and powerful way. So they just keep going back for that quick high, the shot that raises their vibration so that they feel great, no matter what their life actually looks like. If you identify as an NAJ, then this article is for you.

Let me just start by saying that NAJs are not pikers, these are not people who are avoiding taking responsibility for their life. These are usually people who are very dedicated to changing their life and absolutely believe that the Universal Laws and other Empowerment focuses are the primary solution to the difficulties they've been having. But each time they go to a seminar, a workshop, etc, they get really clear and focused on how to change their life, how to achieve their goals - they can feel the energy flow and everything coming into being.... Then they get out into their normal daily life and nothing actually happens. Then the joy, the lightheartedness all start to seep away. They get into a cycle of attending workshops, seminars and other get-togethers just to maintain some reasonable level of light and happiness, but nothing is happening in their life. In other words, they become addicted to the external high, because they are unable to figure out how to bring the action they need into their life. Sooner or later the highs start dropping, just like drugs, first you need more and more, and then it doesn't matter how much you get the seminars, courses etc become less affective.

There is a solution and it comes in two parts. The first is to break the cycle. Stop attending these workshops, courses and seminars. Don't get me wrong, I run training seminars myself and love a big turnout, however, these systems are only useful if they are empowering you. If you're not getting what you need from them (and by that I mean useful tools that work in your life) then stop! The information you are coming into at these courses may be exactly what you need, but not right now. What you are doing is not working for you and you need to keep your eye on the goal - which is taking charge of your life.

The reason this training isn't working for you is because you have blocks. Pieces of you, of your psyche that are tied up elsewhere, whether it be this life or past life trauma, beliefs locked in and forgotten that direct a part of your energy badly, or even some form of dark energy that is interfering with your life. If you can accept the idea that you need to look deeper to find the solution to your difficulties then you are off to a great start.

So once you have removed yourself from the cycle, you need to look at exploring and breaking down the blocks. To do this, you may need to change your immediate goal from building the life you want (finding the perfect partner, fulfilling your life purpose for example), to being absolutely committed to clearing all blocks and resolving all issues that are stopping you from creating the life you want for yourself. Your commitment to this goal needs to be clear and focused and unbending.

Now that you have this new goal, it's time to start accomplishing it. The first step is to look at very directed methods of working with these issues. I highly recommend one-on-one work. It may be expensive, but it definitely targets the blocks and eliminates them. So look at what is available to you, remember to ask the Universe for help and guidance as to what your next step is. Great examples include therapeutic counselling which is often available from non profit organisations for minimal fees, good quality healers that are experienced in clearing blocks (make sure you read their website or pamphlet and learn how they work), or NLP practitioners for example who work with creating a framework for the mental system that directs you towards your goals. There are many different kinds of therapists and healers and you can guarantee that there will be those who are able to help you.

A few helpful hints to consider. Just because a healer or therapist helps you immensely at some point in this process does not mean that they are the ones to deal with all aspects of this journey you are on. Be prepared to work with several different therapists at different times (or even at the same time). Also, there may be times during this journey that you will need a break or just want to read books - listen to yourself (sometimes those books have great information that you connect with at the right time). Just keep reminding yourself of what the goal is and taking a step back every now and then and making sure you are still on track.

The Resonance of Love

It never ceases to amaze me just how much power we have right at our fingertips! Did you know that Love is the single most powerful healer we have? It's true - and, we all have access to the infinite source of Love.

In a world where the physical and finite are held in most high regard, we continue to do that even in the spiritual world. As we return to a deeper relationship with the mystical aspects of spirituality, we continue to seek out the finite, concrete tools to work with - we want to see that we are getting something for our time and money. As such, we keep missing the depth and power of the simplest, most accessible and most powerful tool we have. Love.

In this article, I want to focus on what love really is and why it is the most powerful tool we have. So first to what love is. We tend to view it as an emotion. Something we feel when we connect with someone we care for, when we see something that generates our compassion, or when we see an adorable image of a child or even a puppy or kitten. We even talk about 'love' when we talk about inanimate objects such as food, houses and so on. However, whilst all of this is a response to love, love itself is a resonance - a deep powerful vibration on which the entire Universe and beyond runs. It is the Truth of Who We Are, it is what many of us call God or that Higher Existence.

Love is the absolute, the core vibration to which we are all generated from and as such, it lies at the center of who and what we are as individuals, as a community, as a species, as a Universe. This Truth then answers the second focus of this article - why Love is the most important tool we have. It is because if we are in pain in anyway, it is because in some way we have wandered away from the Truth of who we are. By focusing on the resonance of love we can return home and therefore heal. A great way to do this is to spend some time every day in the Heartspace which can be found in the center of the chest where the Heart Chakra sits. To sit in that space in the focus of love is a deeply healing act.

Heartspace healing is an amazing and powerful healing tool. Recently Soul Path Coaching ran some workshops on the training of working with this wonderful tool. We are in the process of putting together a great training package to be downloaded from http://www.soulpathcoaching.com.au/ - keep an eye out, it won't be too far away.

Your Soul Purpose

I love focusing on Soul Purpose. It is something that each person has but not everyone has full access to. It is very simply the Divine expression on Earth.

We all have ways to express the Divine on Earth. We each have special gifts, that we can share with the world. It is hard to imagine for some people that they have anything special or sacred at all, but we all do. We see it whenever we see someone doing something that they are great at - we see the creative force flow through them and watch in awe and admiration as they do their thing. We see it with healers, public speakers, musicians, artists, entrepeneurs, journalists, quilters, mothers, fathers, gardeners, cooks and so on. It's not really about what you do, it's about the energy flow with which you do it and that energy flow comes from passion, and connection (conscious or not) to the Divine Source.

Discovering what your gift is can be quite a journey for some, for others they've known since birth. Either way it doesn't matter, because whatever that experience is for you, the Divine flow is happening as you explore, not just once you arrive at the realisation of what it is you are here to do. You may have more than one aspect to your purpose - I am a healer, a teacher, a writer and on and on it goes. There are people like me who also write songs, or paint and so on. Wonderful expressions of sacredness!

If you aren't sure what your purpose is, some great ways to explore include looking at what you loved to do as a child - did you love to paint with colours, sing, did you have a fascination in something, do you have a fascination in something now? Are you passionate about something? Remember to think outside the square... for example, do you absolutely love music, but have no musical ability - consider expressions like radio jockey or sound technician - these amazing gifted craftspersons are fulfilling their soul purpose as well.

Although I keep talking about the obvious industries such as spiritual/emotional well being and art and music, don't consider for one minute that there is any job too 'small' or 'mundane' for Divine Expression. I have seen the sacred expressed in accountancy, rubbish tip workers, shop assistants and more. It is important to look at what you are passionate about rather than what you think you should be focused on based on current societal opinion.

Please remember that you do have a Sacred Purpose here on Earth, if you haven't found it yet, your commitment to finding it and healing yourself are key. It's also important to commit to expressing the Divine in everything you do - especially when you have yet to figure out your purpose as this is a sure-fire way to bring you closer to the sacred and therefore closer to your True Purpose.

Empowerment Series: What Is Empowerment

There's so much written about empowerment and whilst some of it I agree with, I would like to offer my experience of what empowerment is.

All too often, we are given impressions about empowerment that suggest it's a state or place to be arrived at - if you are not experiencing prosperity, true love, the perfect job, house, car, etc, then you are not in a state of empowerment. It took me some time to figure out that the successful working of the Universal Laws does not necessarily indicate empowerment, and the lack of success in this work does not indicate failure. Please do not misunderstand me, the Universal laws are useful and understanding the system definitely has its advantages however, Empowerment itself goes beyond the Universal Laws, beyond having what you want, beyond whatever promises you've been made.

To me, empowerment is recognising where you fit within the system that you live in right now. We live in this Universe. We live on this planet. We live in this world. Whatever the truth of this world, it is in process and right now it's pretty clunky - limping along trying to heal, some days better than others. We are a part of the ecosystem of this world. It is in recognising this and coming to terms with it that we can gain empowerment.

It is in knowing that the world is in process, just as we are as individuals, it is not perfect. To move beyond the darkness, into the light we must be able to face the world for what it is, cracks, flaws and all. See ourselves for where we are and know that we are not in this alone. That you have powerful help on your side. Knowing when to ask for help and who to ask.

So to me, empowerment comes as a state of Grace. It is with us sometimes, and sometimes it's gone. The better we understand it, the more often we can experience it. It is about balance. Knowing when to take charge and when to ask for help. Knowing when to push forward and when to sit still. Being able to listen to your intuition and knowing when and how to act. There is much to the state of Empowerment and it will evolve as we do but the principles of balance and love will always be.

Too Secretive?

I really want to talk about the most celebrated Law of Attraction, one of the 12 major Universal Laws that govern how the Universe works and how we can work within the system we live in. There is a lot of talk about the simplicity of the Law and it's true, the law itself is simple.... what you put out (or resonate) determines what you receive and experience. The glitch in this simple information is that it excludes one important point.... that what you resonate is not only determined by your conscious mind, but also the deeper layers of your subconscious mind, and the rest of your intricate and amazing energy system. An example of this is if you have experienced trauma in this life, that traumatised part of you can be sabotaging any efforts to consciously manifest good in your life.

It's easy to recognise if you are affected by issues that limit your conscious work with the Law of Attraction. If you are using any of the wonderful methods for manifesting, e.g., The Secret, The Prosperity Program and so on, and nothing is happening for you, or you get a short term response but it just won't stick, then chances are, there is a part of you that is not influenced by the conscious mind and is running at a very different resonance. Fear not, there are solutions!

Fortunately, there are many next level healers and teachers emerging in this field. Soul Path Coaching includes high level energy healing and alignment work as well as deeper level tools and information that you can use to re-align those wounded and isolated pieces of you to your Soul Path.

The path of conscious empowerment or Soul Path Alignment is that of a life journey. Understanding that by learning about the Universal Laws (for example) you have gained a piece of the picture that is you rather than the whole picture, goes a long way to resolving some of the issues of disempowerment that are emerging.